Overload with advices when life sucks

One of the problems when life sucks, at least when your friends and family know the problem, is the overload with advices, all the people telling what to do. You can't even get inside a door, then they start immediately.

Don't say advices everytime you see them.

I don't say, that all the advices you can say to a person in a crisis, are bad advices altogether, but you have to face, that not all people are alike, and even if it's the same person in a new crisis, not all situations are alike. So take care coming with advices all the time, especially if the person in crisis has not talked about the problem at all. May'be they just need to be together with someone without talking abort the problem, just have some fun or a talk about hobbies. So if you see a person coming through the door, who is unemployed, in a divorce, been widowed or has got a mental disease, don't start babbling about the problem immediately. Wait till the person talks about it, maybe asks for help. Many people in a kind of distress will feel, that the problem is getting worse by getting overloaded with advices all the time.

Examples of overloading advices

People with mental diseases often get the advices: "think positively, be of good cheer, don't be tooe selfoccupied." No matter how well meant it is, then it just makes the problem even worse, make them feel more bad. A mental disease is a disease the same way as a physical disease, so giving these advices is just like saying to one with a broken leg: "get yourself together and try to walk." Let the disease have it's time to cure and talk with them in a natural way.
People, who are unumployed, often gets advices: "how about seeking far away? How about trying to seek employment bureaus?" Maybe the unemployed have tried this in vain, when they must answer that they feel so negative. Let an unemployed be allowed to sit and talk about anything he wants.
People who has got through a divorce also can get advices. "Get along, find someone new." Don't say that immediately after the divorce, it is too early. They time to grief has to be allowed.
In short: allow the person in crisis to be normal!