When a loved one passes away

One of the main reason that life sucks is, that we don't live forever and loved ones passes awy. Sometimes they pass away too soon, unexpected, it can be deadly diseases, accidents, murder, you name it. You sit back in life and still has to live on, but now something is missing.

When old people pass away

When the loved one has come of age, we know that it will happen someday. We don't know when, but it will. Many people are very healthy even after eighty or ninety, that's when it is nice being old, and you can have a good time with the old loved one. But at that age it can suddenly come from one day to another. When you least expect it, the health can decrease, and the heart can stop. It often hurts, because it is unexpected,. even if you knew it was at that age, when it will happen someday.
When the old person has got real sick and is suffering, maybe they have turned senile, can't even remember their own children - then it sucks already, the one you knew is gone, only the body is back. Then death comes as a relief, and don't feel guilty about that.

When younger ones pass away

Most worse it is, when younger persons passes away. It's too soon and often unexpected. How hard it is to say the magical words in that situation. It seem so awful, so meaningless. The only thing I can say to the one, who has lost one: take time to grief now, it's the time of sorrow. Don't be brave, tell your friends and family about all your feelings. Don't be ashamed of shedding tears, it's a natural way to get the sorrow relieved.
Be also prepared, that the worst time after the tragic incident is from when you hear it until the funeral is over. Most people say, that when the ceremony is over and the body is in the grave, then the heart is a little bit lighter. The sorrow has not gone, but it is easier to bear. We have the ceremonies of funerals in all cultures, and I guess it is because we need this ceremony to say a kind of goodbye to the loved one and facing the truth, that he or she is no more.

Be also prepared for....

There can also be so much awful things right after. You have just lost someone, then you have to talk about practical things, what shall happen with the thing the late person owned. Lawyers will come and talk, and you can feel a bit sick of it. Hopefully you have one, that can help you with all these practical matters and can talk with you.
Also remember, that when you come to the year after it happened, then you will feel a pain at that date, you will say to yourself: this time last year it happened and feel the pain inside again. Don't worry, it's a normal reaction. Shed the tears you need. If the loved one was one you celebrated Christmas together with, then you must be prepared, that Christmas the same year he passed away will be a little bleak, filled with a longing. It's normal, shed your tears.
The worst thing about a passing away is, that you can't do anything with it. You'll have to live with it.